Even people who love you can normalize abuse without realizing it is abuse.

 If friends or family say:

 “Don’t do the things that make him mad.”

 “Try not to push his buttons.”

 “Just be nice.”

 “All couples fight.”

 “Maybe you’re just too sensitive.”

 These comments reinforce the idea that it’s your job to manage his behavior—and that’s the same 

 belief an abuser wants you to have. Again, the pattern has been established.